How We Got Here...Part 1 - The Backstory

We’re starting this blog to chronicle our experiences and our thoughts as we have begun this journey. No longer are we in the realm of fantasy. It is real now. We’ve officially taken the plunge.

This all began as a fantasy of mine nearly three years ago. I'm still not even sure why or what brought it about. Before that, the thought of my wife (who I absolutely adore) with another man was nothing short of sickening. Then, for whatever reason, it morphed into something erotic. The thought turned into something more like a fascination. It took hold and turned into a full fledged sexual fantasy. And that fantasy grew and grew and has basically raged ever since. There's something about the thought of my wife being so uninhibited and so purely sexual that is incredibly arousing.

My wife and I have been together for 10 years or so now. There’s no doubt in my mind if we weren’t so close and love each other so much, that I could have never allowed myself to even consider her having sex with anyone else. Much less, share it with her and eventually realize the fantasy and actually do it.

So, in the interest of time, most of the last couple of years was spent fantasizing and talking. At first, my wife was luke-warm to the idea at best. Kind of like, why would you want to think about me doing it with someone else? But at the same time, she kept an open to the idea or at least the thought of the idea. [The idea of this blog is for us each to post and contribute our thoughts, so I don’t want to speak for her too much].

So anyway, the fantasy grew to talk of making it a reality. She agreed that under the right circumstances, she’d do it. It took a little time, but I found (yes, I was the one looking) a guy she might find to be cute. She did and the two of them arranged to meet to get to know each other. This was in December.

They met and had drinks a few times. My wife actually complained that he was a slow mover and didn’t make any moves on her. It’s weird to hear a complaint from your wife that she’s disappointed a guy isn’t trying harder to make any moves on her. But this was our first time venturing into this arena and she told him she wanted to go slow, so we chalked it up that and stayed with it.

To move things forward, my wife and “the guy” had to go from restaurants to a more private location, so about a month ago, they agreed to meet at his house. And this whole lifestyle got kicked into high gear.